“No matter what anybody tells you, words and ideas can change the world.”
Tom Schulman, Dead Poets Society
The seasons heavily influence my mood. It’s not necessarily a clear-cut “today is a bad day” when the clouds are overcast, but it’s like there’s a gloomy filter placed on my body.
Winter is not my favorite time of the year. I get cold easily (did you know that red heads are more sensitive to temperature than most people?) and I hate it. And I’m not going to lie, I really don’t care for driving in the snow. (This is a very anti-Colorado stance. Locals love to claim competence and being comfortable driving on icy and snow-packed roads. Weird flex but ok??)
I also feel anxious…Read more
I have always been someone that dives into every single part of my life with absolute full intensity. It’s less about perfection and more about giving 100% to the people and activities that depend on me; and it probably has a little to do with my underlying fear of failure. I guess, too, that I really enjoy being good at things.
Growing up, I developed this passionate surge by signing up for everything in sight. I had a dance class every night of the week, plus several hours of softball or basketball or running a club or making sure I wrote a page over the homework assignment’s word count….Read more
One life, zero extra chances. If there’s any platitude that has a been caught in my head, ringing in my ears like the heavy church bell I’d tug as an altar server on Sundays, it’s this: you’ve only got one life, and you better live it.
And I do; I want to live it. I want to be extravagant and lavish and extraordinary, but also meek and quiet and kind. I want to confront everything and question everyone and also be a silent and supportive listener and ally and gift-giving friend. I want to travel…Read more
When I started this blog, I had an unclear vision with a brightly shining motive: I wanted to write. I wasn’t sure what my purpose would be, or how this site would evolve, but I knew that I wanted to rediscover my passion for finding and using words to create a connection with readers.
I have started to dabble into different areas of the blogging arena. I’ve messed around with married life musings, started reviewing a few products here and there, and traveled to new and exciting attractions. I’ve tried to be entertaining, and maybe provide some helpful insight along the way….Read more
When the clock struck midnight on December 31, 2017, I felt a little apprehensive. How could I not? I’d just flown back from Chicago, feeling full of love after seeing my entire immediate family and I was counting down the new year surrounded by friends. I had a feeling that 2017 would be a hard year to top—or even compete with. Within those 365 days, I had ran a newspaper, graduated from college….Read more
It’s wonderful, and I think our relationship warrants a little bit of attention. Chad, my husband, deserves the world. A little corner of my blog pales in comparison to the space he takes up in my heart.
Cheesy, but true.
I recently noticed that I haven’t explicitly described meeting Chad, or how he came to propose. Here’s the highlight reel…Read more
Christmas is a time that comes with a lot of baggage. Good and bad, we all have some.
For me and many others, the holidays come with a cheery rose-gold tint, filled with fond memories of family, fun gatherings, and spending time with loved ones. I can name so many Christmas memories that filled my heart with such warmth and connection. I’m lucky, and I know it.
Traditions have played a major role in preserving the magic of Christmas, though they haven’t all lasted. In some situations, it has been better that they’ve been left behind…Read more
It’s true: while the game of tag has always crept into my surroundings—as an out-of-breath kid who wondered why others were so easily tricked into exercising, and now as a blogger that feels overwhelmed when my handle pops into “Follow Friday” tweets—I’ve always avoided it.
Like when I was a kid, it now has nothing to do with avoiding others and ruining a good thing. Rather, I get anxiety over tag. I overthink, I get stressed, and I need time-outs that the game doesn’t necessarily allow for.
So, when I was “tagged” by Bill…Read more
As we move into 2019, we would like to extend our warmest thoughts and well-wishes to our family and friends that make these holiday good-feelings worth sharing. In an ideal world, we could all gather, drink (sour beers a’plenty), and be merry; however, this year we’ll have to settle for a digital version…Read More
When it comes to the holidays, everyone approaches them a little differently. Sometimes they are filled with cheer and family togetherness, while other times they are a not-so-subtle reminder of grief or loneliness.
Thanksgiving came and went, in what felt like a blink of an eye. I’m not too sad to see it go; the day, beyond its problematic roots of indigenous people’s mistreatment, is wrought with excess and sprinkled with consumerism. I love getting to see family and spending time together, but I’d honestly be okay with never seeing another Thursday football game in my lifetime…Read more
Let’s talk about roommates. Most of us have them at some point, whether it’s in a dorm, from an ad off of Craigslist, or a romantic partner. They can be an important—if not challenging—aspect of adulthood.
Right now, I’m lucky to be living with my favorite roommate of all time. And while my husband kindly gives me plenty of perks (including wonderful cuddles and a lifetime commitment), there are still a fair amount of obstacles; things like dishes and piled up laundry and messy habits still exist…Read more
But, it didn’t and hasn’t gone away. Adulting, as Millennials have coined, is here to stay. This is what language is all about—it’s a reflective evolution that isn’t worth getting mad over; “literally” doesn’t mean what it used to, and we all just have to deal with it. So, instead of stewing in the silliness of it all, I’ve adopted adulting as a viable term. My husband and I use it pretty frequently, usually paired with long sighs, venting sessions, and moments of existential dread…Read more
Sometimes being in charge brings twists and turns.
During my time at the CU Sentry, I held positions of power where my voice carried significant weight. One year, as Editor in Chief, I was literally in charge of the entire operation. And while I loved and cherished every single moment—from making editorial decisions to hiring fresh perspectives to the “from the editor” above my weekly column—there were some times that were harder than others.
When it comes to newspapers, the Editor in Chief has a lot of editorial responsibility tacked onto their name and title. While praise gets passed onto the staff as a whole (it is far from a one-woman show), criticism typically goes straight to the person…Read more
Today we are celebrating 7 years together, and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Chad, I love you, and I always will…Read more
As a writer and former journalist, I think that list-articles—infamously known as ‘listicles’— are in no way, shape, or form a correct method of journalism. They are pretty much trash, that don’t require much thought or skill to compose and removes any need for critical thinking.
Personally, though, I quite enjoy reading listicles. Sometimes to unwind I read through Buzzfeed’s endless list of them, taking note of advice columns, amazing Tweets, Amazon recommendations, and product suggestions for acne-prone skin. I’m only human.
So, here’s a treat on me…Read more
It’s spooky season.
For all my witchy, vampire-loving, all-black wearing sisters and brothers out there, I see you. It’s time for you to shine (omniscient, more like an eerie half-glow) as the shadows grow and Halloween looms. This month is yours. Take it, love it, embrace it.
I don’t want it…Read more
When I was in college, I decided to throw an end of the semester party, right before the holiday vacation. We all—my roommates, friends, and then-boyfriend (now husband) made it through a particularly tough term, and deserved a chance to celebrate.
It was pretty Christmas-y, with tinsel and holly decorations, a themed cocktail menu, and a pile of Santa Hats for a photo opportunity. I scoured my Pinterest boards, created a Facebook event page, and even sent digital invitations with a jingle attached. Even with the pressure of final exams and papers, I was able to plan this party with full effort.
How could I know, then, that this night would turn…Read more
Attention everyone: a year ago, today, was the best day of my life.
There was vodka, burgundy, and dancing. Family, donuts, and fall colors. The air was brisk, my dress was off-white, the mountains familiar. More than one pair of eyes glistened, while laughter and sincerity radiated throughout the evening, keeping us warm.
If I had to make a list of things I’ll never forget, it would begin and end with beautiful moments…Read more
I credit this to some of my favorite traits: I’m empathetic, compassionate, sensitive, and kind-hearted. Some of my not-so-good qualities contribute too; I also avoid conflict like the plague, I’m insecure about drawing attention to my feelings, anxiety runs rampant through my veins, and my default aggression is…Read more
Here’s the deal: I’m an adult. As much as it might not feel like it, especially on a day-to-day basis, I am a full-time employee with a degree, a husband, and a car payment. I might be a millennial version—one who surfs social media, takes an occasional selfie, and is a little too attached to my phone—but one nonetheless.
But there are times when I think back, maybe to simpler times, when I was less of an adult and more of an impressionable student…Read more
Never Have I Ever is a popular game for inquisitive middle schoolers, high school athletes on long bus rides, and college kids who like to drink.
People gravitate toward drinking games because consuming booze isn’t quite entertaining enough…Read more
Life as we know it is filled with hot takes. Solicited or not, there they are. We see them as we scroll through Twitter, they are discussed in length on talk shows, we hear them through the group chat, and sometimes we are told, face-to-face, how our choices rank.
As an independent person, I don’t tend to ask for advice or help; when people reach across my barrier of reluctance, I see it as a sign of compassion. I’m open to opinions. Usually.
There are some cases, though, where I’d rather throw away those unsolicited two cents, and trade them for something I can actually use…Read more
While I confess that fall is my favorite, it also is emotionally difficult. The terrain is complicated to traverse. Good things continue to build, while the things I once cherished stay put in the past…Read more
Women, you inspire me.
You’ve written your way out, broke through an audience’s veil, and made my journey in writing that much easier.
Here is one my previously published columns, featured…Read more
My husband Chad and I are coming up on seven years together, and one year married.
Throughout this time, we’ve gone through a lot—hurdles, successes, and nearly every milestone that comes up in a young relationship’s highs and lows. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve grown a lot. This growth has come independently and as a couple, and likely won’t stop anytime soon.
I hope to explore “married musings,” to sort through these experiences, and whatever lessons pop up along the way…Read more
Artists, I think, tend to doubt. As passionate and determined as we often are, there are still pieces of us that drip in skepticism and wade in the dangerous waters of comparison.
I’ve been there. Really, I’m still there, on and off. There are good days and bad days, where I start off knowing I’m on the right path, and then wandering off trail.
In 2016, when I was particularly overwhelmed, I detailed my insecurities…Read more
A few years ago, I opened a door that I haven’t quite been able to wedge shut. It was Christmas vacation: I’d watched a film with my parents and nestled onto the couch with a hefty glass of wine. I don’t remember why inspiration struck, but I remember tweeting, very innocently, “thank goodness for #feminism.”
The darkest depths of the Twitterverse opened…Read more
Growing up, I knew two things to be absolutely true:
- Doing anything difficult at all builds character.
- Practice makes perfect.
My household, as you can imagine, had a strong emphasis on goals and success. My parents, now married for 31 years, ran things in a similar way to their partnership: with a lot of love, support, creativity, and room to grow.
I have always had very clear priorities…Read more
There’s a popular phrase weaving its way through social media; young people are saying it everywhere, from Tweets to memes to Instagram captions. Users are dripping with both sarcasm and authenticity as they type, “I’m just over here living my best life.”
I’m a young millennial. The culture that stems from viral posts, including memes and Tumblr language, is not new to me. I’ve caught myself saying, “what are those?!” and have used more than one or two hashtags in my time as an internet connoisseur. Part of my job description even…Read more